It is so easy to be offended. There are so many reasons each and every day to be offended, irritated, frustrated, perturbed…to be affected by the people, things, and scenarios around us. Our natural tendency is to impulsively respond negatively to a negative situation. What if however, you didn’t let the environment have so much power over you? What if you chose a more effective response?
Stubbing your toe, having the office printer eat your copy and subsequently shut down, dropping messy leftovers onto the floor when you open the refrigerator door, getting cut off on the road…in these moments, they feel like the most frustrating things in the world, when really they aren’t. We allow them to affect us and influence how we feel, respond, and operate.
What if however, you didn’t let the environment have so much power over you? What if you chose instead, to overcome the initial impulsive reaction and instead, choose a more EFFECTIVE response, which sometimes may be no response at all?
Effect vs. Affect
The difference between effect and affect here is so much more than a common grammar oversight. It’s a choice in how you respond to the world around you. When we choose to take control over ourselves within the environment we operate, as opposed to allowing the environment we’re in take control over us, we can be a more successful leader, contributor, and effective human being.
Our ability to do this can be linked to our resilience, or the ability to bounce back from something difficult. Resilience is critical for good leadership. One must have the ability to respond to failure and difficulty in stride, acknowledging the opportunity to improve and succeed.
A recent Forbes article entitled, Why Resilience Is Necessary As A Leader stated, “While personal resiliency is important, it is a critical component of effective leadership…The true grit of a leader is not how they perform during the good times but rather how they display emotional strength, courage and professionalism during the most trying times.”
Failure, disappointment, frustration, annoyance, it will all happen in every aspect of life. However, with resiliency and the choice to be effective versus affected, we can rise above the everyday frustrations and make many of those moments an opportunity for learning, understanding, and accomplishment. Learn how to increase your emotional intelligence and meet challenges head on with greater success by visiting, www.chuckgarcia.com