What does it mean to truly overcome your fear? In a previous post, I introduced the incredible accomplishments of Yuichiro Miura, the oldest man to summit Mount Everest three times. During a press conference announcing his admission into the Guinness Book of World Records, Miura asked, “what would you do, what would you attempt if you knew you would not fail?”
It’s a question I’ve seen in a number of motivational settings – but posed by a man who scaled the highest mountain on earth at the oldest age, it carried greater impact. Here was a man who achieved what many would be afraid to do or even attempt.
And that’s just it – it’s our fear that prevents us and limits us, from accomplishing greater heights in our lives. What would you attempt to do in your life if you knew you could not fail? Take the time to really consider what those goals would be. List them and then consider why you’d need the promise of not failing to even attempt them. What are those fears?
At the heart of my teaching and consulting, I focus on helping people overcome one of the greatest challenges each of us face in our personal and professional lives: the need to be understood. Compared to all of the incredible challenges waiting for us to overcome – including summiting Mount Everest – why is this one need, the need to be understood, so daunting?
This need is built on communication, which is a fundamental aspect of life. Unfortunately, the effectiveness of communication can get derailed by fears, language choices, and just bad habits. One of Jerry Seinfeld’s standup routines addressed this fear of communicating: “According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking…death is number two. At a funeral, the average person would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy.”
So many of my clients and students are deathly afraid of communicating to groups of people large and small. We work through those fears and as a result, their potential for success is greater than ever before. But, what is it that we are so afraid of? I’ve found that it ultimately comes down to three things:
- Making a mistake
- Being judged
These fears become our limits – getting in the way of what we can accomplish. We all have them – so how do some seem to overcome them? They transform fear into action. Ultimately, success is what happens after you’ve survived all your mistakes.
Find out what tools are available to help you transform your fears into success by reading my blog, “Developing a Mindset of Success.”